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A Changed Work World for the Stay-at-Home Mom

I read a really interesting article on a blog called Pick the Brain.

The post addresses how at an increasing rate, with the aid of technology, people are working in non-traditional situations, often from remote locations. The blog makes this point:

In the case of the modern information worker, nearly all tasks involve creative or strategic thinking. The way someone answers an email or interprets a piece of information can differ drastically depending on his or her energy level. Nobody does their best work 5:30 in the afternoon after they’ve been sucking down coffee all day to stay awake.”

I agree.

Pick the Brain argues that most people aren’t continually effective on an 8 hour schedule, that there are peaks and vallies throughout the day. I would agree with this. Why be at work during the vallies and cause the employer to have to pay for that time? I think they put it well when they state it this way,

When workers reach the low energy part of the cycle, they can’t recharge with a non-work activity. The only option is office purgatory. You can’t be highly productive because you’re mentally fatigued, but you can’t recharge because the 8 hour work day requires the appearance of constant productivity. The result is millions of unproductive workers trapped at their desks when they’d rather be doing something else.”

I would also argue that what may be a typically productive time of day for one person, may not one for another. Why not tailor your work day to the hours you work best? Middle of the night? Early in the morning? After lunch until prime-time? When the kids are napping? After they go to bed? You get the point.

Why does this topic interest a non-working, stay-at-home mother of two toddlers? For a few reasons:

1. Even though the technology was not there when I was younger… I ALWAYS pictured working from home via computer and video conference. It was a rare occasion if I pictured it differently.

2. Withen 3 years of joining the career driven workforce, I started working from home via computer and occasional meetings at starbucks :).

3. Should I ever rejoin the workforce, it will be from home. It will be via computer, video conference etc. The schedule will fit into times when I am not taking care of and/or educating my children.

In an article from the Los Angelas Times, by James Flanigan, posted on AOL Jobs entiteled Working at Home Pays Off for Firms.

Flanigan uses a case study from Jet Blue. He points out,

JetBlue has 700 reservation agents working from their abodes (one pictures them sitting there in their robes and slippers, the fridge just a few feet away) with company-supplied personal computers and second phone lines.

To be sure, their wages of $8.50 to $10 an hour are way above the $2 to $3 a day that call-center operators in India and the Philippines often earn.”

Jet Blues Chief Executive David Needleman shares,

“With home working you get more mature people who stay with you,” he says. “There isn’t constant turnover.” What’s more, he adds, employees who take care of business from home tend to “feel better” about their jobs, boosting productivity by an estimated 25 percent.”

Flanigan also uses AT&T to illustrate the benefits of “homesourcing” workers.

“AT&T Corp., for its part, reported that last year it “received over $180 million in operating benefit from telework” — tasks performed away from the office by U.S.-based network planners, human-resources managers, sales personnel and others. With fewer corporate facilities to buy and furnish, real-estate savings accounted for a significant portion of the number.

The advantages for companies employing people to work at home continue to grow along with technological developments. Though not all jobs can be sourced from home, (eg. doctors, pilots, regulated companies, etc,) Many jobs can, and many employers are thinking out of “the box”.

I have the ability to stay home and not work right now and gladly accept it. But someday my children will be a little older, I will be done having more, and my driven brain will not going to cease to exist! At this point I know I will love working from home again, to what capacity? I am not sure. But I’m EXTREMELY thankful that we now live in a world capeable of it.

The Pick the Brain blog sums it up by saying,

Forty years from now we’ll be telling our grandchildren about the olden days when everyone’s mommy and daddy went to work in an office.

He’s probably right!


Wet Tshirt Contest

While I was at the Dr. with Owen Jeff shot this picture with his phone.


In JJ’s words…

i just showed lukas the toys in the shower, gave him one letter and then said “1 second lukie and we’ll get in there. so i literally turned for 5 seconds to put my shorts in the closet and next thing you know it, lukas was already in the shower. he was excited about taking a shower and playing with his toys. it’s a pain to take a wet shirt off of him…

Hanging by a Moment


All the drama from Owen yesterday led up to a night woken up by tears of ear pain. Poor little guy. He is sick. So sick he was screaming all morning. It’s a horrible place to be in when your doctor’s office isn’t open but you are pretty sure you don’t need to be going to the ER. I felt, WE felt totally helpless. He finally has an appointment after 11am. ELEVEN AM. I was partialliy inclined to go wait at the dr.’s office with him until they opened this morning and beg for them to see him as soon as possible. Oh well. I’m pretty sure it is an ear infection…. The Motrin seems to be working for the moment.

I’m off to have quiet time while there is still quiet.

It’s Not What I Say.

Owen Intense

Recently I posted this video on how our little ones are watching everything we do and immitating us.

This morning was a perfect example of that.

As I sat at the kitchen table doing my devotions and reading my husband walked into the kitchen and started talking sweet to me. I kind of answered but kinda blew him off too, after all I was deep into my reading.

Meanwhile, Owen was drawing at his table.

JJ noticed my dis-interest in what he was saying and asked me what was wrong. The fact is, nothing was wrong I was just distracted. So I told him nothing, that I was just into my reading. I must have had a tone that implied “please be quiet, I’m busy” but at the time I would have denied it.

Obviously, Owen noticed. Little children are just so dang smart! We really don’t give them enough credit.

A few minutes later JJ attempts to talk to him by asking him questions. Owen’s response?

Dad, Please stop talking to me I’m drawing right now“- said with total tone!


I told him it was wrong to talk to his daddy that way and that he needed to hug him and apologize. Obviously my actions spoke louder. He heard what I didn’t say. He heard me telling JJ that what I was doing was more important than talking to my husband. And Owen learned therefore that what he was up to was more important than paying attention to his dad.

Gosh- sometimes I’m just so amazed at what a high calling parenting is. How it points out flaws we would not see if it weren’t for these little reflections following us everywhere.

God have mercy! Keep changing me.

Sometimes I feel like, Sombodies watching me.

Watch this powerful video. Convicting. Gave me chills. Not too long, take a looksee. (Hat tip Kyle.)

Oh? How do you really feel?

I apologize for my silly “bad day rant” below. It doesn’t even read well. I should have just posted this and you would have understood.


In all seriousness though. I’m fine now and in retrospect it wasn’t that bad of a day. There were just moments of complete chaos here and there that made me wonder if being commited was an option. They were brief moments, and they are over for now.

This video of the boys playing from a few weeks ago cheered me up. Please ignore the mess in my house while viewing. I have surrendered to not cleaning up their messes until they go to bed these days.

Longer Summer Days Mean Less Time


There seems to be a corresponding relationship with the beautiful time of year arriving and a decrease in my blogging. After 2.5 years and counting in the blogosphere I also notice this happens during the holidays. I suppose it all makes sense. But I have been so good about posting everyday, and almost always 2 times a day! This may have to go down for awhile. After-all, as much as I love you all, and love this hobby… Chasing my children outdoors becomes the priority. The pool isn’t even open yet, and when It does I know I will spend a lot of time there as well.

Today was absolutely lovely. 76 degrees, low humidity, Ahhhhh. The kids actually slept in (but they have been going to bed so late!) I loved my morning coffee and spending time in the Bible. I put up the bouncer for the boys because Owen was begging for it. They played outside together so well that I was able to work on one of my back garden beds! We grabbed lunch on the go and headed to a local greenhouse. They behaved perfectly for a whole hour while I browsed trees, shrubs, and perrinials. They went down for naps and I planted 4 plants and bounced some landscape ideas off of my neighbor. In all my gardening today I only saw 2 worms… and there were no other bugs to be found. After that I woke up the boys, picked up a cousin, and headed to the gym for a spin class. Then I took a NICE LONG SHOWER there, blow dried my hair (a luxury for mommy,) and then headed out for dinner. The boys were moderately well behaved for not having dinner until 7:30. It’s 10:20 pm and just finished bathing the boys, putting them to bed, putting dishes away… and I’m finally at my computer. I’m exhausted and waiting for Jeff to get back up here so we can watch 24.

For mothers’ day the boys got me a mani/pedi:) . Jeff scheduled it for tomorrow… so I will be thoroughly enjoying that! Things are pretty amazing right now. Exhausting, but good exhausting.

I have so many things I want time enough to write about… but as my list grows my time shrinks! So hopefully I will get a chunk of time to do that and schedule them to future post!

Oh yeah, I also got a farmer tan yesterday and today, so it looks like I’m going to have to fix that before the wedding I am in this weekend! OOPS!

I’m off for now.

Goodnight blog world.

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